I always wanted to be a vet, right from my earliest memories of weighing my guinea pigs on my mother's flour scale and meticulously keeping their daily records in my home-made vet charts. I wanted to be a vet – and so I became a vet. My parents always led me to believe that I could be and do whatever I wanted. Sure, it may take effort and time, but anything I put my mind to was achievable.
Or so I believed. Until one day, I was told that I may never be able to do one thing, one very important, monumentally important, thing: become a mother.
My reality, my identity and my whole life as I had imagined it was challenged. I was forced to re-invent my perception of what it was to be a woman and what it was to be a mother. I settled on the realisation that, if I could find a way, when I held my baby in my arms, I would be no different from any other new mother, regardless of how I got there. And so after years of suffering heavy bleeding and pain with fibroids and endometriosis, undergoing countless surgeries, endless rounds of IVF and a devastating miscarriage, I began my journey to motherhood through surrogacy.
I always wanted to be a writer. And so I became a writer. I wrote my story, Mission to Motherhood, published in September 2017, for all the women who are struggling to get there and who need a little hope, a little companionship, some shared experience, a little help from someone who's been there.
This story has a happy ending. I always wanted to be a mother. So I became a mother of 2 boys, now almost 4 years old and 6 months old, both born through surrogates. One of my goals now is to help get independent surrogacy legislation implemented in New Zealand as there is nothing in that space at the moment. With an ever growing number of couples needing access to alternative methods to parenthood, surrogacy legislation is desperately needed. I'm a vet, an author, a mum and a woman on a mission.